After a little circular period in my head, I called a friend on the pretext that I needed her opinion. I did not really care about your comments; I just wanted to let the tape of my internal dialogue unfold. The peculiarity was that I had the impression that a teacher in one of my children`s schools was treating something wrong. My girlfriend listened politely, agreed, and then threw some of her opinions into the fire. My friend`s well-intentioned participation and approval solidified my story and what started as a flame turned into a campfire. We analyzed the teacher`s personality and motivations and checked what was happening from different angles. Eventually, we pulled up the lens and made the problem more systematic, a selection of the most important problems that arise in the school. Our continuous agreement fueled the fire again and again, we settled around it and grilled the resentment in right tones. “The reality of convergence is the knowledge that has been gained because others tell you that this is the case.” Conversation with your friends or contraction will only be helpful if they are brave enough to offer a different perspective. An agreement will confirm your position and keep you in your head. You are dead in your head. I often hear people talk about what`s going on in their minds, as if their thoughts are a reality.
I did it for over an hour the other day. I knew what I was doing, and I clung to it because I had some free time. « A useless spirit, it is the playground of the devil. » We live in a world of convergence reality, it happens all the time around us. People who disagree with prevailing views often remain silent because of the spiral of silence. The heart of this theory, developed by the German political scientist Elisabeth Noelle-Neumann, is that if one opposes a well-received social agreement, one risks being thrown from the campfire and being eaten by wolves. Do you have hours of conversations in your head about something that bothers you? Do you call your friends or family to ventilate? Do you think a solution and relief will appear if you continue to hate her? How much time do you spend in the reality of the agreement I would like to have the aeration and the agreement worked and I went away from these calls and felt better. The chord creates and confirms the positions and the ventilation strengthens the neural pathways. I left the call angry and dismissed, planted in a clearly defined posture. Every time I do myself well and someone else gets it wrong, we sound the alarm.
There is no way if the positions are fixed. Only a drop of doubt can allow the working capacity to enter the room. Curiosity builds bridges between us. “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I can`t change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to recognize difference.” Once I find out what was in my power, I can establish an action plan to do it as quickly as possible. If I am not ready to take the necessary steps to feel better, I recognize it and pray or meditate for availability. If my problem is a circular, selfish conversation about an area of my life where I feel dissatisfied or helpless, there are other possibilities. Finding where I can change is the first step, and I use the Serenity Prayer as a guide: The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language. 5. The first. 2011. Boston: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt. Even if you decide not to tackle the main problem, there is always a step you can take to get out of your head.
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The first. London: Penguin. What began as an ephemeral thought now had a whole structure and turned out to be “the truth.” (noun) Ideas and beliefs that members of a group such as a society or culture generally accept as true. On my best days, when problems arise with a person or organization, I have two good options; I can go directly to the person or organization with my complaint, or if I am not ready to do so, I can pray or meditate.. . .